Family, beach, baseball and a little sightseeing.
25.07.2009 - 01.08.2009 33 °C
I have finally decided to join Mark in this blog one month later because, yes, I am a serial procrastinator. “Why do things today, when you”… ah I’ll write the rest later.
As Mark already mentioned, I’m a temporarily retired engineer who loves her family and her Lululemon. I also love food, new stamps in my passport, Perez Hilton (don’t judge) and most of all, Mark.
So 4 weeks ago, we went to Rehoboth Beach, Delaware where Mark got to meet my extended family. He’s already met everyone in Montreal but had yet to meet my family from the US so I was quite excited to show off my beloved. Well the excitement didn’t last too long and the whole week was short of a disaster. We all know that Vietnamese traditions and culture are quite different from Canadian’s and though my family from Montreal is traditional, they are still open-minded. The same cannot be said for my family from the US and on our first night there Mark, who is still slowly and curiously learning about my culture, committed a serious “faux pas” in their eyes and they decided, after meeting him for a couple hours, to deem him disrespectful and to ignore him for the remaining of our stay. Without going into details, what he did was so normal that I don’t even know where it crossed the line and became disrespectful but that’s beside the point. The point is that my family wasn’t upset at him but at me because I, a grown 30 year old women with a capable mind and good career (which is on hold, yes I know), didn’t give my boyfriend, an intelligent 33 year old independent ex-company owner, the instructions of the dos and don’ts of how to behave in a Vietnamese family. WHAT?!?! But he’s not Vietnamese therefore didn’t grow up in our culture…but he’s not a child so I don’t want to tell him what to do… but how about getting to know him and his traditions and culture and letting him be his own person instead of imposing our ways on him. I can totally appreciate protecting and respecting our culture, but how about sharing and teaching it and letting others decide for themselves instead of shoving it down one’s throat.
Needless to say, the whole ordeal upset me quite a bit but I wasn’t too sure if I wanted to blog on it until today. As I sit on Mark’s grandma’s couch in Moncton, New Brunswick, I can’t help but think about how I’ve been so warmly welcomed by all his family and friends in the past few days. No one has set expectancies for me and no one has made me feel like I didn’t belong just because I’ve never been to the Maritimes or that I don’t greet people with a warm hug or that I don’t know what Baloney is. Everyone has made me feel so accepted even with my differences and it makes me upset to think that my family from the US didn’t allow Mark to feel that way.
Well enough of that emotional crap. Rehoboth Beach was fun but a tad too touristy for my taste, the beach was nice but a bit too rocky and the waves were too strong. The boardwalk was very fun and my three nephews can definitely testify to that. The things that come to my mind about Rehoboth beach now are: they won’t exchange our Canadian money in any bank, IHOP pancakes are heavenly for the first 2 bites then nauseating after that, Jack Lingo is the coolest name we’ve heard, if you don’t read rental quotes properly you can end up paying 180$ for a couple hours of quad-cycle (cycling thingy that fits four) rental, great Mexican food only cost 4.25$ for a huge plate and why is shopping at Walmart so entertaining?
While in Delaware, we took a day trip to Philadelphia to attend a Phillies vs Cardinals ball game which made Mark very happy and surprisingly enough I didn’t fall asleep as often as I thought I would. Hehe, no it was quite entertaining and very exciting: 5 homeruns!!! We also had our first local Philly steak at 10AM before visiting the Liberty Bell and other historic sites in downtown Philly.
Now New Brunswick, I think I’m in love… There’s something so irresistibly charming about this place, it’s the slow pace of life and the humble overly nice people I think. People really go out of their way to be nice and helpful, and it’s quite contagious. It’s very different from Montreal. And all the seafood!! I had the best and cheapest lobster in my life and also learned how to eat it just by using a knife, it’s quite an art.
What do you know, it’s the girlfriend’s first post, and it had to be an emotional one, how typical. Well I can’t promise that it’ll be the last emotional one neither. I think through our blog, you’ll obviously read about the travelling and sightseeing side, also about the ups and downs of our discoveries of each other while discovering the world and but most importantly, about our greatest passion of all… food!! Don’t be shocked if we start describing to you in details each and everything that we eat. And don’t even try to comment on how we write too much about food, we won’t stop!! And hopefully I’ll be more prompt on my posts in the future.
So a few more days in the Maritimes before heading back home for the last preps before the BIG adventure…
Next blog: All about the Maritimes, mostly New Brunswick.
T & Mark.